Harrison is here! Obviously, based on the number of photos I’ve
been posting to Facebook.
Harrison Lincoln Spurrier arrived on April 8th, 2015 at 8:16am via
scheduled c-section. He was 7 pounds, 12.5 oz and 20 inches long. Perfect
little baby!
The c-section was relatively uneventful. The only glitch was
that Harrison had been head down for weeks so I guess no one bothered to check
him before starting the procedure. He had moved to transverse (sideways) so
delivery took a bit longer and mom and baby ended up a little bruised, but all
was well in the end. I felt better as soon as I heard him cry, and while I was
being stitched up John held him so we could both talk to him and give him
kisses.
Then he gave us a couple of scares…little stinker...
On our first night in the
hospital someone decided they should check Harrison’s blood sugar. It was
low, but went up after he ate. Then they checked it again at his next feeding
and it was low, but got even lower after he ate. They moved him up to the
Special Care Nursery, which is not quite the NICU but gives more attention. Cue
emotional breakdown for me. I still wasn't allowed out of bed, so I had to hand
off my baby to be taken somewhere I couldn't get to and I was not happy about it.
However, once he was in the Special Care Nursery all of his tests were just
fine. The pediatrician said another baby had weird glucose levels that night as
well, so his assumption is that the testing machine on our floor was off (even
though that’s the first thing I asked the nurse and she insisted that wasn't possible). So Harrison was back in my
room a few hours later and I was happy. Actually, he was released at about 2am,
right after John fell asleep in Harrison’s room and I had taken a couple of Percocets
in my room. So after all my tears when he was taken away, I ended up asking
them to keep him a couple extra hours until John woke up. Sometimes moms and
dads just need to sleep!
About a week later we went into the pediatrician’s office
because Harrison was squeaking a lot while eating. There’s no other way to
describe the noise, he just squeaks sometimes. The doctor said he has laryngomalacia,
which means he has come floppy tissue above his vocal cords. No big deal, he
should grow out of it. However, when John put Harrison in his car seat Harrison
had what they call an ALTE (Apparent Life Threatening Event). He had some
reflux, milk came out his nose, and he choked and turned blue. The pediatrician
turned him on his tummy and gave him a few pats and Harrison was just fine, but
the event bought us a one night stay at Children’s for monitoring. Lovely.
Harrison was absolutely fine all night, and has been fine
since. But I will say spending the night at Children’s was awful. We were
kind of ok at first, we were too worried about Harrison to think of much else. Then
they brought me my parent badge. Same photo my badge for Lincoln had, same
lanyard, same everything. Which turned into a pretty big grief trigger for me. Then
we moved into the room we stayed in overnight and it was just surreal. The room
looked like all the other rooms…just like Lincoln’s rooms. I hated every minute
of it. I hated the resident who asked how old our first son was, even though I
KNOW he had been told Lincoln passed away IN THAT VERY SAME HOSPITAL less than
a year ago. I know this because the other resident in the room stopped him and
told me they had just been told. I hated him even more when he asked if I remembered
Lincoln’s birth date, as if Lincoln’s passing could have potentially made me
forget the date my child was born. Idiot. I wish punching people was socially
acceptable.
But we were home the next day, and that’s what matters. And I’ve
gotten side tracked…back to Harrison…
Harrison has since seen the cardiologist for an
echocardiogram as a precaution. The cardiologist told us to go away
and not come back. Those were his actual instructions. Yay! We haven’t done liver
or kidney blood work yet, we’re going to wait another week or so, but there is
no reason to think there are any issues there. Again, just a precaution.
We’ve also seen orthopedics for Harrison’s club feet. That
doctor wants him to put on a little more weight before casting starts, so we’re
set with a first casting date of May 4th. She expects the casting along with a tendon cutting at the end of the casting process will be enough to correct the club foot. The casting will turn his feet forward instead of in,
and the tendon cutting will then allow his feet to point straight ahead instead
of down. We’ll have a better idea of long the casting will take once we’re a
few weeks in. I’ll update and explain more once the process starts.
So that’s where we’re at. We’re enjoying snuggles with this
little guy. It is wonderful having him here, and my fear that I wouldn't love
him enough is gone. He’s brought baby happiness back to the house. He’s also made
me miss Lincoln even more. I didn't think that was possible. But Harrison has
reminded me of all we are missing with Lincoln. I know some people might think “but
at least you have another baby to love”. Yea…call me selfish, but I’d prefer to
have both my babies. That’s something I know I’ll have to work through and come
to terms with. For now I’m just trying to be kind to myself and acknowledge
that this isn't an easy process. But I couldn't be happier with our decision to
have Harrison, and I love him so much. I’m going to go smooch him now!